[Zillini]

To the OP, I'm sorry things did not work out for you and you are hurt. I hope you don't mind, but I'd like to use your post to make a general point and I hope this does not pour salt in your wounds. To be crystal clear I am not directing my comments specifically at you, rather at so many PNMs who come here heartbroken when they were dirty rushed all spring/summer long.

I am tired of all the claims of dirty rushing. "I was dirty rushed all summer, my friend was, a girl on my dorm floor, etc., then they dropped me! It's not fair!" Does dirty rushing happen? Yeah, I'm sure it does. Does it happen with every Chapter? I doubt it. But the numerous accusations about dirty rushing can make everyone think it is the norm and perhaps even acceptable. It is not.

Dirty rushing can be stopped and the best people to do that are those PNMs who were hurt by it. Turn those Chapters in to Panhellenic. Tell them what they did, what they said, when they contacted you/your friends, etc.

J-Board and Rho Chi's (or whatever they are called on a campus) cannot be everywhere. They can only look into issues they know about or see right in front of them. Chapters are hesitant to turn in others because maybe: they are doing something wrong too; they fear retaliation; they fear being labeled a "snitch"; they don't know infractions occurred; or they don't have any/enough concrete info only rumors. Sometimes a Chapter doesn't even know what their own individual members did.

I would like to see more people stop complaining about a problem and instead be willing to be part of the solution. Often it just takes seeing one Chapter being held accountable for the others to fall in line because they do not want similar sanctions. While it will not change your Recruitment outcome, it might prevent similar heartbreak for PNMs who go through in the future.