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Originally Posted by littleowl33
However the BIG pro is that you have a mentor and group of friends immediately upon joining. When I joined, I didn't know a soul in the sorority or in my pledge class and I was pretty intimidated. Getting my big gave me a lot more confidence and helped me find my place in the sisterhood. I would have had a much rougher time adjusting and understanding what was going on if I had been "afloat", so to speak. My Big was able to introduce me around to all the upperclassmen I would have been too shy to get to know on my own. It really faciliates immediate bonding between the upperclassmen and the new freshmen.
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In our associate member ceremony (not Ritual, f.y.i.) your Big Brother is supposed to pin you and give you your Cornerstone (manual). Not all chapters assign bigs immediately like this, but my chapter did with my AM class and it definitely helped me meet more people and be more comfortable in Delta Chi. I actually didn't like my pledge class in the beginning (we're all very close now!) so my Big Brother is one of the main reasons I stuck it out.
It doesn't work out for everyone, but I've never seen catastrophic results, at worst they're just kind of apathetic towards each other. I think it can be a big advantage.