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Originally Posted by rosiegirl
I'm feeling completely misled and frustrated and don't know what to do. My second choice sorority was (and actually is) not a big party sorority but was upfront about being much more casual about academics. I specifically picked my first choice because I was hoping that being in a house where they were serious about academics would stretch me. I wish now that I had gone with my second choice as I feel they were much more honest with me. Help.
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Unfortunately, you cant really go with your second choice at this point- and if you were so misled by the house in which you are now a new member, you might just as easily be misled by this other sorority as well. Starting college and joining a sorority etc. is all very overwhelming. Just because there are some girls in your house who drink, it doesn't mean that they won't respect you for not doing the same. AND you don't have to miss out because you don't drink. One of the most active members in my chapter didn't drink, but she still came to all of our mixers, Venti Starbucks in hand. Nobody judged her for not drinking, because she didn't judge us FOR drinking. Just be honest and up front with your new member class. Obviously you saw something in them, and they saw it in you too. I promise you, if you go to the house on a Tuesday night to watch Real Housewives of Atlanta or something, there are going to be plenty of girls in there, doing homework, watching TV, and not drinking. You will find your niche.
Also, keep in mind that the beginning of the school year always constitutes heavy drinking, especially for freshman who have just gotten "freedom". It will tone down once the classwork starts hitting them hard.