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De-lurking to add a couple of comments.
1) To the OP (who say's he's not ready to be a parent): My wife and I wanted to be parents, we planned for it, we were blessed with a beautiful son, and I still didn't feel ready for parenthood! Yet it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
2) A few years ago I was in a situation where a gf and I broke up after an intense relationship and just a few days later she knocked on my door and told me her period was late -- way late. Not what we needed at the time. We both knew that she was very regular. This had the feeling of being very serious. A few days later she told me she had gotten her period. We were young, stupid, foolish, and we had dodged a bullet, because we both knew we had been playing with fire.
She was Catholic, and I am pretty sure that had she been pregnant, she would have had the baby. Whether we would have tried to get back together, I don't know. We never had to face it. What is strange is that sometimes I will see someone about the age that our child would be now and I wonder what the child we never had would have been like.
3) Growing up with parents who were not together, I can say that a very bad thing to do is to use the child as a pawn in a battle between the parents. I hope that the parents in the OP's situation can find it to put their differences aside and agree to be civil with respect to the child in the situation.
Best wishes to the OP and others in similar situations.
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