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Originally Posted by Ghostwriter
Wow - that sounds like a lot of work and I believe you are correct about the rec's not being necessary at my daughters school. The school was large but the Greek population was about 5-6 %. Not near the level of most SEC schools. Sororities were all above 100 girls and the pledge classes were 40+.
How does a High School student from PoDunk High find out how to get rec's? Is this just common knowledge? Also, what if a young lady thinks she wouldn't want to go through Rush but changes her mind when she gets on campus? Is she just SOL or is this something that can be over come? Last stupid question. Do Alumnae write rec's for people they don't know or do they interview these young ladies to determine their qualities?
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Yes, it is a lot of work...even if you know alums in all the groups on that campus! And very much more so if you don't. The best way for any young woman to get them is to ask family friends, teachers, employers, friends who are already in college sororities, etc. In other words, networking! And quite often, an alum of one group will have friends who are alums of other groups. For example, there are 16 NPC groups at Alabama - I can get a rec for any of them because I have friends in all the groups. Generally speaking, if I ask a friend to do a rec for a young lady, she will take my word for the woman's qualities as my friends know I won't ask for just anyone and I will be up front about the young woman and her qualities - or lack thereof. We're all pretty good about that.
If she gets on campus and then decides to go thru recruitment, at an SEC school she'd be pretty much out of luck. All the big southern schools require recs and if they have huge numbers coming thru, the chapter won't bother to get one themselves. They have too many already so why bother chasing down a dozen or so. They can have a great new member class without them. Sad for the young women who didn't prepare in advance, but true. Since most of these type schools have recruitment before school starts (except for Ole Miss), you wouldn't really have that problem as the woman wouldn't be on campus that far in advance of recruitment.
Hope this all makes sense.