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My daughter had an amazingly wonderful time at rush. She took off two old row sororities due to unknown cost estimates, and they invited her back anyway, haha. She took them off her list a second time, and they dropped her. So whoever thinks that the PNM has no control over rush is mistaken, If you truly don't want to get invited back, you can make that happen by just not acting interested. These two were not her top choices, anyway.
During final round she got selected to her top choice of her three Preference Day parties. So she is very happy and very excited. Along the way she got cut by a couple that she was interested in, and pursued by a couple that she was not interested in, but at the end of the day she thinks that she has found a really good fit!
I had decided not to post here again, but changed my mind for a couple of reasons. Not everyone on here is rude (I guess that's a subjective term, but assuming that my daughter would be cut, calling her the "Salesman's daughter", saying my comments were "tacky". "snobby", etc. is considered rude where I come from), as I had several private messages to me apologizing for the rudeness shown. (Incidentally, my husband is a stock broker. I do not think that there is any shame in that.) But the main reason I am following up with this update is that I read on another forum where a young lady, unrelated to us, had similar questions. People were giving her the same advice: drop out. My advice to her, if it's not too late, is don't drop out! My daughter has been having the time of her life bonding with her new sorority sisters, and I am so glad we did not listen to that advice!
I hope that the Greek system at Bama and elsewhere will do a better job of informing PNM of the costs. Would not that be better upfront? Then they might not lose so many members in the future due to financial reasons. Incidentally, my daughter received NOTHING regarding costs from ANY sorority at Bama during the entire rush process, including the one with which she pledged. She had to rely on the sheets given out at Panhellenic weekend (and the ones NOT given out.) I hope that the Panhellenic there will do a better job, as these sororities may be missing out on some really top notch, classy girls with good reputations and great grades if they don't make the info. available in the future. BTW, to the poster who suggested we email or call Panhellenic if it was such a big deal, I did send an email to them prior to ever joining this board. Unfortunately, it went unanswered. I guess cost is a forbidden topic at Bama rush, because my daughter did not feel comfortable asking at any time.
Many, many thanks for the words of encouragement from the 7 people who sent me private messages. Thank you for taking the time to write to me. "All's well that ends well."
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