I've been around GC since 2001, and I understand the process perfectly well. If I need to pass a Green Book quiz before I can contribute to the thread, I'm happy to take it.
If my potential spouse was going to charge me a lot of money, I'd sure as hell want to know how much it would be before I accepted a ring. Especially if, as at Bama, it's probably the only ring I'll ever get. Furthermore, if I wanted to discuss our financial future together during courtship, and he wouldn't discuss it and held it against me that I asked...I'd think that was deeply unfair of him.
A woman DOES always have a choice...she can decide not to list a sorority she can't afford on her pref card. If she gets a less-expensive option, then great, and if she doesn't, no one will ever know why she dropped from recruitment. In contrast, if she shows up at Bid Day, her name is in the paper as a new member of XYZ, and she has to drop when she finds out the cost, that happens in public. Not to mention that it would be much more disappointing to discover that the sorority is unaffordable after enjoyig the Bid Day fun versus knowing from the get-go that XYZ is just not an option.
Yes, given Bama's system, the best advice is not to rush unless you can afford the top of the stated range. But it would really be nice if students who can't quite afford the most expensive chapter had the opportunity to shoot for an affordable chapter.
Yes, costs can change from year to year. But a multi-thousand-dollar shift is unlikely absent house acquisition or some other major development, and that kind of change is generally well publicized.
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But I wouldn't overly romanticize the recruitment process. You aren't choosing a soul mate. You're getting matched to a group that has the potential to do great things for your and with you. Many of us even believe we could have been happy and successful in other groups had the one we joined not worked out.
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This. Especially with the 200-woman chapters at Bama. No one who makes a good faith effort can fail to make friends in a group that size.
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