[Kevin]

Don't PM me. I don't know the law in your state. That's why I said to talk to a lawyer in your state and be sure to ask him certain questions. There are things you can do (in most states) early on to make sure it's yours, etc., but believe me, you don't want her to go to a guy like me who will take a default on you and just put whatever we feel like putting into the paternity decree (based on the information we have, of course).

You're not the first guy this has happened to. I was preventable, but that's beside the point now. I'm not sure why anyone would want to continue talking about that other than to feel somehow superior to someone on the internet. (pretty awesome)

If I were you, I'd use the next 9 months to start preparing for what is probably inevitable. Do things like figuring out what child support will be and if you can't afford that, get a better job (and refigure child support). Also, if you don't have a place which can easily accommodate an infant for visitation, you'll need think about that when your lease comes up.

So it's very likely right now, not 100%, but likely that you're going to be a dad. Make sure you get someone to look after your rights. Start saving for that retainer fee NOW and start thinking about what the future is going to bring you. I urge you to accept what's probably going to happen and resolve to be the best parent you can possibly be.

-- and once she's further along, you might consider telling your folks, grandparents bankroll just about every paternity case that walks through my door.