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As a person who has been the subject of gossip of that nature (and it was just that, gossip) and who has friends who also have been, I think you really need to be sure what you're hearing is the truth. Odds are, it's not as bad as it sounds. Things can get twisted out of perspective very easily, especially as more and more people pass the "news" along. I hate to insult anyone, but guys can talk just as bad as girls do and what comes out of their mouths is not always the truth...that might be where the gossip originated. The girl might be aware of what people are saying; if she is, it's probably very hurtful. If you denied her a bid simply because of that (even though you thought she'd be a good sister), it would hurt even more. Should you decide to go ahead and bid her, don't even bring up the gossip...I can tell you that it really, *really* hurts when you find out one of your own sisters has been perpetuating stories about you. And if the gossip turns out to be true, well, maybe you and your sisters can fill that empty spot in her life that she's trying to fill by behaving that way.
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