[Kevin]

Well good luck there. Let me just tell you this -- if you do end up having a child with this woman, do not sit on your butt. Make sure to talk to a lawyer to get the right stuff done. If you doubt the kid is yours or think she's not being truthful about the kid being yours, tell your lawyer that.

I've represented both mothers and fathers in paternity cases [as a legal intern and under supervision] involving infants. It is all too typical in my experience for one of the 'parents' to just roll over because they're not ready to become moms or dads (and before you assume I'm talking about deadbeat dads, I've seen my share of deadbeat moms). In my experience, you can really screw your rights regarding your kid up for the next 18 years by stupid inaction right after the kid is born, whether you want custody, visitation, etc. or not.

If it's a money thing, don't worry, if you're about to produce offspring, in many cases, your parents will be secretly thrilled and will be more than willing to help with expenses. In fact, I can't think of but a few select cases where we were representing a young 'oops' parent and grandma/grandpa weren't footing the bill (but that might have something to do with what we charge).