I'll leave your question about recs and southern schools up to someone who knows better than me.
As far as the boyfriend issue goes, don't bring it up. However, if your rusher brings it up say something to the effect of "Bob is great, and he really got me interested in greek life, you know, I'd love to hear about one of your favorite parts of greek life!"
Just try to bring the conversation back to you... after all that's who they're trying to get to know!
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