[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by carnation

I never heard of these but boy, would I be hesitant to hold one in light of what has happened to most of the big-school legacies I know. (Okay, all of them since 2000.) Say you invite your younger sister to this fabulous tea and she gets all excited about being an Alpha Beta, dreams of it for 2 years, rushes, and gets cut.

YES.

This happened to a friend of mine's little sister.

This chapter had an event like this during Little Sibs weekend. Big Sister had always invited Little Sister to come up and stay at the house that weekend. She met everyone and everyone loved her and thought she was great. Big Sister always said things like "When you move in, you can live in the yellow room like I did." or "When you get initiated _____."

So basically for 3 whole years, Little Sister KNEW she was going to be an XY. Every year at the event, it is reinforced that she is perfect for XY,that XY loves her, and it is going to be super fun being in the sorority with my sister.

Fast forward to recruitment. Little Sister is a freshman, and Big Sister is a senior (and officer). Little Sister gets cut from XY after 3rd Party (day before Pref).

She was devastated, but actually continued with recruitment and joined another chapter. She ended up dropping out prior to initiation and transfering schools.

Big Sister was furious. She resigned from her officer prosition and took early alumna status. To the best of my knowledge, she hasn't returned for any XY alumna events since.