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Originally Posted by TexasRose

And when I call them cold, I do understand that it's their group and rules and so forth. But from my perspective it would have been nice to have some type of encouragement from them, maybe that if I was really interested in them I could meet with members, make some friends, and begin to see if I would be a good PNAM. If that's not the way they do things, then that's fine, I get it, it's just a little sad for me.

Thanks again!

I'm going to be a little honest here, maybe you an appreciate that:

If you are looking for sorority HQs to pat you on the back, point you in the direction of alumnae chapters so you can meet them, and say "good luck," then AI is not for you. The sororities are not going to take your hand and spoonfeed you.

Perhaps you misunderstand AI. It is intended to honor specific women who have contributed to the sorority but may not have had the opportunity to join a sorority in college. Or to give the opportunity for members to recommened specific women in the community whom they know could be great members (but did not go Greek in college).

When sororities initiate an AI, it says that "this woman is so special that we feel the need to make an EXCEPTION to our normal recruitment methods to initiate this woman as an alumna."

It's not like traditional recruitment, which is the way 99% of women join sororities. AI is not a typical mode for joining a sorority, it's more the exception and not the rule. It does not function as collegiate recruitment does. Which is why HQs respond the way they do. It's not promoted like recruitment is, because it is so rare and very few women are chosen for it.