Thank you KSUViolet. I don't expect to have the collegiate experience at all and I would expect my involvement (should I ever get in anywhere) would start like a regular alumnae with joining a local chapter, fund raising, support, and other such things. No intentions here of trying to go to all the active events and formals and such.
Perhaps I did express myself poorly. When I spoke about recommending, I was thinking more of "I know our sorority ABC does this" or "my friend got in touch with XYZ this way" and so on. I'm sorry, I don't mean to have people randomly tell me that XYZs the way to go when they're an ABC, but to hopefully offer their knowledge and experiences.
And when I call them cold, I do understand that it's their group and rules and so forth. But from my perspective it would have been nice to have some type of encouragement from them, maybe that if I was really interested in them I could meet with members, make some friends, and begin to see if I would be a good PNAM. If that's not the way they do things, then that's fine, I get it, it's just a little sad for me.
Thanks again!
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