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Old 07-29-2009, 02:15 AM
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Originally Posted by gee_ess View Post
If pnms are telling you they don't feel connection with members, then the problem is more than likely in your conversation technique and not the songs. Songs can help set the mood, but the real meat and potatoes of rush occurs between the member and the pnm.
This.

Practice your conversations. Pair up with another sorority or a fraternity - they'll want the convo practice too, if they have any members who've never recruited from the members' side.

Where possible, pair up sisters and PNMs who have common interests. The later the round, the more important this is. If you pair up a PNM who's hoping to be a professional singer with a sister whose favorite key is Z, they're not going to be able to have much of a conversation.

If your goal is to not intimidate the PNMs by cheering and screaming and singing really loudly as they enter your house or rush room, then you could try singing or humming a quieter song. But if all the other chapters cheer and scream and sing really loudly, PNMs may think "what's wrong with this chapter, why aren't they as loud as everyone else?" So weigh that into your decision.
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