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Originally Posted by mkose1
I'm not sure what I should do about this problem of mine, i've always been close to my parents and I really don't wanna hide the fact that I'm in rush and hopefully get a bid, but I know that my family won't really be "thrilled" to hear that I'm going greek. So what should I say to them that will make them not throw a fit? They buy into all the stereotypes of greek life...enough said...how do i tell them that i really want the brotherhood that comes with joining a fraternity? I'd really enjoy any advice...thanks...
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My parents were especially against it because the college near my hometown had a hazing death right before I left for college. To be honest, if your parents are anything like mine, you'll have to prove it to them that you're safe and that it's worthwhile, and that comes after recieving a bid (or in my case, after being initiated with no bruises, bumps, emotional scarring, or having died due to alcohol poisoning). While going through recruitment, keep them aprised of the process. As a new member, tell them as much as you can or remember. Remind them that they did well with how they raised you and that you have a good head on your shoulders, and prove that to them in other ways.
If they're worried about your grades, keep them up or make them better while a new member.
If there's ever an event where parents would be welcome, invite them, and then see that they come, even if they live far away. My parents lived a few hours from my campus but nothing made them feel better about my sorority membership than when they came for a family luncheon, met my sisters and many people close to the chapter, and knew that I had people looking out for me.
I also paid all sorority dues and sorority costs myself, meaning I got a job to do it. I don't know what dues were like at your campus, but mine were manageable. In the end my parents appreciated that I was responsible enough to want something and to make it happen.