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Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Hey UCFLove and sweetpea,

I am ALSO a PNM at UCF. I am VERY nervous since I am a sophomore and I'm afraid that I will be cut simply because I am lavaliered. I have gotten the impression from some girls that I will not even be considered because I already am involved in Greek Life and spend aloot of time at my boyfriend's fraternity house. I am HOPING this is not true.

Feel free to PM me at any time and we will share our worries together. No reason to worry alone!

Some things:

Being lavaliered DOES NOT = being involved in Greek Life. It just means you have a bf in a fraternity, that's all. So a sorority likely isn't going to cut you for being "already involved" becaue you're not.



There are some things to consider with being lavaliered:

**Everyone knows that there are fraternities that tend to hang more with certain sororities than others (example: at one school, the DGs and Sigma Chis may hang out alot). Because of this, it sometimes happens that a sorority will assume that because you are lavaliered to a man in a certain fraternity, that you only want to be in a certain sorority because that's the one they hang out with most (whether it's true or not).


Example: Let's say your bf is a Sigma Chi and they hang out the most with DG, during recruitment, it's possible that other sororities may assume "Let's cut her because she's lavaliered to a Sigma Chi, so she probably only wants to be a DG."

**Also, spending time at a certain fraternity sometimes makes girls think that because they are lavaliered to a ___, that they are guaranteed a bid certain sorority. Example: You may be lavaliered to a Sigma Chi whose chapter hangs out the most with DG. So you assume "I'm going to get into DG because my bf is a Sigma Chi." That's not true.


Some more advice for lavaliered PNMs:

*Please don't talk about your bf, his fraternity, or being lavaliered over and over again. It's annoying and it doesn't tell the sororities anything about YOU. Most would say that it's not really appropriate to talk about boys/boyfriends AT ALL.

*Be mindful of your behavior around your bf's faternity house. There are probably some sorority members hanging out there, and you're probably friends with them. All the more reason for you to make sure to keep it classy when you're at fraternity parties and such. Don't be a drunken scene, yell, scream, cause drama, etc. The sorority members WILL notice you, in a bad way.

*Be mindful of yoursel when partying around sorority members. Sometimes all it takes is one drunken (or sober) misunderstanding between girls to negatively affect your recruitment.

Example: You accidentally spill your drink on Amy Alpha. You say sorry, but she thinks you said something else and gives you a dirty look. You are confused and you give her a dirty look back. She then goes back to the rest of the Alphas and says "that girl barefootbeauty is such a beeyotch, she gave me a dirty look at Sigma Chi last night!!" They all spread the word to other sisters, and your chances of being an Alpha are affected.

Things get even more interesting if Amy Alpha decides to tell her friends in OTHER sororities about "the incident." You get the idea.