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Originally Posted by budger1984
The city of the school I attend does not sell alcohol, so I don't think alcohol will be involved. If it is, I don't have to get drunk or even drink for that matter. I can be friends with guys and still be married. My husband knows that he won't be able to come to certain events and he was okay with that. Men are everywhere regardless of whether or not they are in a fraternity. If he trusts me to go somewhere without him, I don't know why he would care if it's to a club, a mixer, or a restaurant.
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I can almost guarantee that alcohol will be involved. Greek life is not all about alcohol, but I think this is a particular aspect of Greek Life that you need to give some more thought to. Yes, you can be friends with guys and still be married. But the point of mixers is generally to foster the relationships between the men and the women -i.e. leading to dating, relationships, etc. Alcohol in these situations does make them a little more "wild" than perhaps you might expect. I'm not sugar coating with P.C. answers, because I think you need honesty right now. The point of mixers is to mingle with the opposite sex. It's a very different situation than just saying well, men are everywhere.
Not only will your husband not be able to come to certain events, he will be allowed to come to only a handful. Date parties, formals, perhaps a philanthropy event. Being in a sorority requires a LOT of time. Even beyond the required events, the best parts of being in a sorority generally don't happen during official sorority time - they occur in the casual downtime and hanging out with friends.
I'm not necessarily trying to discourage you or frame this harshly, but I really think you need to put more thought into this. I think there's aspects that you haven't full considered and perhaps just brushed aside as no big deal. You don't quite know all of what sororities do because you haven't been in one. It is tough for sororities, because we've all been in the position where a new member did not fully understand what they were getting themselves into and eventually quit. Sororities expend a lot of time, love and money on new members. They are going to be wary of someone in your situation - several years older than the vast majority of sisters and married. What are these girls going to have in common with you? They'll be looking at that for sure.
And as you should know, there are tons of other groups on any campus where you can get involved, meet people and make friends. IMHO, you really need to consider if this is truly the best option for you.