[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by futuregreek?

Well, I'm a PNM and I'm here with a question.
I've been thinking about rushing for about two years now and have decided to go through formal recruitment this fall. Through all of my greek chat lurking, the biggest thing I've learned besided recs is to KEEP AN OPEN MIND.
As I looked through all of the websites and attended a pre-recruitment event at my college, I have always tried to make sure at least half of the houses were on my "I can see myself there" list. But, I recently met with an alum (an incredible woman that I've looked up to for the past three years) of one of the houses on the top half on my list. Now, I'm afraid that I like one house more than the rest. I know this is bad, and am well aware that this opinion might change when I begin meeting girls during the open house round. However, I don't know how to keep this favoritism in check for the month leading up to recruitment.

It appears that when "researching" houses, it is inevitable that a PNM will end up with some sort of mental ranking no matter how hard they try not to, so how can other PNM's and myself keep these ranks in check? It is practically impossible to unthink something that you've been thinking about so frequently. How can I restore my "open mind"?

It's pretty natural for PNMs to have favorites. As much as we advise them not to, it's bound to happen.

Just try not to get to the point of thinking that you love a house so much (without actually meeting anyone in it) that you would drop out of recruitment or something if you didn't get it.

I just tell girls to keep in the back of their minds that it's important to be open minded because ANY of your faves could cut you at any point in the process.