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Originally Posted by tld221
I just think the whole "just try NY you may fall in love" is not setting the OP (or any PNM for success. That's like going out with a guy you don't really like because he keeps asking you out and calling. Its like "you got a bid from one house, so you should take it."
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Originally Posted by tld221
I think the bolded is where I strongly disagree-i find a problem with "learning to love your chapter." Hate to go back to marriage analogies, but it feels a LOT like an arranged marriage-the whole "the love will come later" attitude.
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I don't think the arranged marriage or dating analogy really works here. A sorority isn't the only activity or only source of friendship for young women, unlike a marriage where that one person IS your only romantic relationship.
I strongly believe that many women will grow to love their chapters if they didn't initially. That being said, it requires the genuine effort to meet most of your new sisters so you can find your niche among them and within the activities of the chapter. You have to give it an honest try.
"Settling" implies that you gave up something better which required a little more effort or patience to obtain, in favor of the quick and easy option in front of you. If one sorority is your only option for Greek life, and you would like the opportunity to be Greek, then I don't think that you've been untrue to yourself or settled for anything.
Additionally, I would say that encouraging women to give their chapters an honest try is in the Panhellenic spirit. Sometimes we have to remember that these PNMs are young women who aren't fully matured and are going through an emotional process, we should be the ones to give them that mature advice.
...And if we DO want to liken it to the dating process... how many of you dated AWFUL guys when you were 18 or 19? C'mon, most of us went for the wrong guys when we were that age because we didn't have the sense to realize who the good guys were yet
