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Originally Posted by littleowl33
I think we're going to have to agree to disagree. I didn't "settle" for my sorority. It wasn't my first choice going in, but it wasn't a group so bad that I didn't want to be a part of it. And yes, I grew to love it. Looking back, I can honestly say I wouldn't change a thing.
If a group was truly a terrible fit and spending four years there would be a bad experience - then no, it's better to be independent. But honestly, I don't think a PNM could determine a group was *that* awful just from three or four 30-minute interactions. If a woman truly wants to be in a sorority (as it seems the OP does) and didn't have really awful interactions with the sisters in question (which the OP didn't), I think she should give it a try.
I also think you're greatly underestimating the number of women who learn to love their chapter, but then again that may vary from campus to campus. All the groups on my campus, from the most to least desirable, have the same de-pledging rates (usually one or two women every year). If women were settling for less desirable groups and then dropping out because it was so bad, that wouldn't be the case.
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Well to each its own. I hope I didn't offend you-I didn't mean to insinuate *you* settled, but more a general *you*.
Ut just seems that if OP re-rushes, she's only going to focus on the house(s) she wanted before. Now if she has a change of heart, to find another house (or even NY) was for her, then that's awesome.
But to rerush, get similar results and THEN accept a bid, in the name of being greek, no matter the letter, that feels like settling to me.