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Announcement made. Didn't make sense to wait when we've already set a date, gotten on the church calendar, talked to our parents, etc. All these things kept falling into place. My father (a retired mechanic who rebuilds classic cars) even looked at me one day and turned the care of my car over to him. The fight we had was actually at the tux shop when he was getting fitted for someone else's wedding.

Basic gist of fight:
another groomsman: "Are you his fiancee?"
Me, getting very flustered because no one had asked me that question: "Well, um, until we have a ring on my finger let's call me his girlfriend."
J, (from the dressing room): "We've set a date!"
Me: "But you haven't asked!"
J: "I told you I wanted to marry you and you cried!"
Me: "But you didn't ask!"
J: "We booked the church!"
Me: "FINE! We're engaged! Happy?"

Maybe not the ideal story, but it's our story.
When we started dating, I prayed for clarification because nothing was defined. There's a lady he knows that asked me if I was his girlfriend and once again, flustered, I replied, " Not that I'm aware of. If I am he hasn't let me in on the secret." In the parking lot he told me that he was hoping that I would answer that question with "Yes" from then on.

Based on the fact that different phases of our relationship are always marked by me being the last to know, the fight in the tux shop ended with, "When I'm pregnant one day am I going to find out from your mother?"

We're 32. We've been talking about marriage for a long time and because of the way that our relationship has played out so far, telling people my ring is being sized doesn't matter at all when the big news is that I'm marrying the man I've loved for years. He could tie a string on my finger and I'd be happy.