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Originally Posted by 33girl
I'm guessing (or should I say hoping) this is a huge chapter where everyone doesn't necessarily know everyone and they had no clue she was sick. Like kddani said, if you just disappear, you're going to get terminated.
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We had a really similar situation with our chapter, and even though were were pretty small at the time (~45 sisters) the sister kept us completely in the dark. She rushed, was initiated, and then completely disappeared when the semester ended. Someone saw her moving out, and she just said she was moving back home, across the country. After that she completely went dark - she wouldn't respond to any kind of contact, even by her Big. We were really worried about her, but there was nothing we could do. She did contact us about a year later to say she was ok, but to this day no one knows what happened, why she left or if she's ever coming back. We really miss her! She was a great sister. I don't know what ever happened in terms of her status with the fraternity - I'm not sure if she could be given alumna status because she was only active as an initiated sister for a few weeks, and then she was gone. Like the OP's situation, it's probably very convoluted.
I guess my point is, don't blame the sorority - they could be completely in the dark as to what happened or unable to contact her. If we had known our sister was in trouble and needed our help, we would have done everything we could. But it's understandable that someone with serious health or family problems might not feel comfortable sharing that information, even with her sisters.