[PeppyGPhiB]

Do not travel with this guy. Send an email to HR explaining why.

Send a Memo immediately to HR outlining your discussion with them and what you understood to be their feedback and next steps. Make sure you send it to more than one HR person, say the person you spoke with and their supervisor. I can't believe any HR professional would say "boys will be boys"...that's so old school and right out of a sexual harrasment role-playing workshop.

I don't know about your cell phone company, but mine (Sprint) provides access to all of my detailed calling statements online. I can see when all calls came in and out, phone numbers, etc. You should be able to get the same from your company and at least have record then of how often he's calling you. If your phone has speakerphone, you should buy a hand-held recorder and try recording his voicemails.

I know you're already meeting with a lawyer, so they will tell you what further steps to take. If I were you, though, I would talk to him/her about whether you should file a complaint with the police and get it on the record. In the meantime, if HR refuses to do anything about this guy, I would quit and sue the company for failing to provide you with a safe working environment. I think you have every reason to be concerned for your safety with the stalking behavior he's exhibiting in plain sight and with the support of everyone around him. I know it's a rough job market out there, but there's no way I would ever put up with that or stick around long enough to see whether HR was going to do something months after I first reported it. This ends NOW!

If you do eventually leave, and legal arrangements don't bar it, file a complaint with the state dept. of labor, too. I once contacted them after I went to a place to interview and was asked to go with a guy I didn't know in his car to ride out to someplace I didn't know to do some work they wouldn't tell me about. I was blown away they would ask female interviewees to go in a car with a young adult male employee, and on top of that it sounded like they wanted us to work the day for no pay. Let me tell you, the Labor Dept. was very interested in my story and actually followed up later to tell me that they had paid a visit to the company to investigate.