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I was the dumper in my last relationship (which lasted over two years). It did really suck, and I felt really guilty and bad. He was/is a really great guy, and he hadn't done anything wrong--I just changed, and fell out of love with him. But I definitely still cared a lot about him, and I really hated hurting him, though staying in the relationship after I realized I had to end it (which I did for a month), hurt him too, because he could tell I was getting distant, and he couldn't figure out why or how to change it.
That said, he was definitely way more heartbroken than me, and in the end I would rather be guilty than heartbroken. After all, I knew I was doing the right thing, for both of us, even if it sucked, whereas he was just in a lot of pain. Fortunately, he's moved on and we remain good friends.
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