All you need to do as a PNM is provide an alum with your resume and picture(s). A copy of your transcript may be encouraged depending on the particular school. Also providing a pre-stamped envelope would be thoughtful so she doesn't have to pay for postage.
The alums send in letters of Rec, not the PNM. They should be be sent to the Chaptes, not to I/natl headquarters. ALums should be able to find the correct mailing addresses on their I/natl website or their I/natl magazine. They ought to be able to find the appropriate form(s) there too.
Don't worry, alums should know all this. (If they don't then it's time they learn.
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