[SWTXBelle]

I am one of those women who had a problem with side effects with the pill. I had what my doctor termed a "mini-stroke" and had to get off of them. They are serious stuff, and sometimes I think we have a rather cavalier attitude about them.

As long as we're sharing personal insights - my eldest daughter did not date at all until college, so talking about sex was abstract (although still important). On the way to college I told her that even if she was told by her ob/gyn that she would have trouble getting pregnant she should bear in mind that is what they told her mother, the mother of 4, and her grandmother, the mother of 4. She should assume that if she is having sex, she could very well get pregnant. My younger daugther came to me at 16 and said she wanted to go on the pill. I took her to the doctor and discussed everything with them - we've had to change prescriptions. She seems to be doing fine - currently she isn't involved in a relationship, but I'd just as soon she stayed on them as opposed to getting off of them and then back on - they also help her in other ways - don't want to post TMI. Her father (my ex) refused to even DISCUSS it with our daughter - nothing like putting your head in the sand . . . I hope my girls now (and boys later) know that my ultimate goal is their happiness, and they can tell me anything, knowing that I love them and want only the best for them.