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Originally Posted by MysticCat
See, all your initial post (and your poll) asked was "are you pro-life or pro-choice." Nothing to indicate we're only talking about a legal question only. Even so, I don't think that the designation helps further any real discussion.
FWIW, my position is this:
- I think abortion should be legal with few if any restrictions in essentially the first trimester, with more restrictions as pregnancy progresses, and that it should be illegal if there is any chance of viability.
- I think abortion is never a "good" thing, and should be an option of last resort, but there are situations in which in may be a morally acceptable choice -- the lesser of evils.
- I think that only the people involved can really make the decision, which is why I think that the government's interest is very limited until such time as the pregnancy has progressed to the point of potential viability.
- I think, to quote the old saw, abortions should be safe, legal and rare, and that the best way to see fewer abortions is not to outlaw them (that will just lead to unsafe ones) but to do whatever can be done to avoid the need to consider them in the first place.
- I think that, if anyone tries to describe this position as "pro-abortion," the discussion is over.
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I agree with most of this. I would add a caveat to #1 to say "unless the life of the mother is at risk due to the pregnancy, in which case, the life of the mother would take precedence"
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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24
I am pro birth control--shots, pills, condoms, implants, IUD, sponge, foam, lubricants, and having "tubes tied" (the actual medical term for that slips my mind right now). I also believe with the exception of having tubes tied, the rest should be available to the public for free with no questions asked (this includes dispensers in school restrooms).
... parental notification for minors wishing to have an abortion and be placed on any form of birth control that includes hormones and a medical procedure (such as implants & IUD),
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I agree with the first paragraph of yours, which I quoted.
I don't necessarily agree with your second paragraph. My view is greatly slanted because of working on adolescent psych units for 13 years. In a "good" family, all that would work. But, when daughter is being molested by mom's boyfriend and mom won't leave the guy and there isn't enough evidence to have the guy removed from the home, I think *that* kid should be able to get whatever they need to avoid having a baby. When parents are so unrealistic that the girl will be exiled from the family if she does any of those things (because her boyfriend is not of the same religion as them), but she IS going to have sex anyway, she should be able to get those things. (Yes, worked with a 17 year old girl whose family held a funeral for her, refused to speak to her, but allowed her to live in their home and fed her, because they legally had to, because she was dating a boy outside their religion.. she was understandably suicidal). In a "normal" family, they should be able to talk about these things. The problem is, there are far too many families that are totally insane and dysfunctional. While there are currently court processes to get around these kinds of situations, kids don't know how to access that system.
Parents walk a very fine line between trying to teach their kids morality AND responsibility at the same time. You don't want to condone promiscuous sex yet you realize that they will NOT wait until they're married, especially in this day and age when people are getting married later and later, but puberty is happening earlier and earlier. You can talk about what an intimate act it is and how it should only occur when you're really in love and mature enough to handle the consequences, but they THINK they're really in love and mature enough long before they really are. All that said, I have told my daughter that when she is at the point of needing to be on birth control, that I will support her in that. I'm lucky though that she's a kid with pretty good self esteem and strong future goals and she doesn't want to do things that will mess up her future. I have considered, when she or my son starts dating, putting a box of condoms in the linen closet to make them available if they need them, no questions asked, but, like I said, it also kind of feels like I'm condoning it. My hope is that neither of them date someone that seriously for a while so I don't have to deal with it yet.
ETA: I don't think the father should be able to force a woman to have a child, because there are so many complications with carrying a child for 9 months and going through labor. Conversely, I don't think a woman who wants the child should be able to force a man who wants her to have an abortion to support that child forever either. I think men should have some sort of "waiver" they could sign to say they will not accept parental rights or responsibilities if the woman chooses to have the child. Women should not be able to "trap" a man in this way and it's too easy for us to do so at this point in time.