[violetpretty]

You really can't know for sure if you were "supposed" to be be at your first choice. First, most actives don't truly understand how bid matching works. You only get your second choice if your first choice fills quota before they get to your name on the list AND if you are high enough on your second choice.

Second, depending on the methods that a chapter uses for membership selection, the actives may not even know the exact position of each PNM on the bid list though they still participate in membership selection. So in many cases, an active that WAS at membership selection may not even know if you were "supposed" to be there.

My guess is that there were actives in the chapter who did genuinely like you so they thought you should be higher on the list, but membership selection isn't the decision of one person. The chapter decides. And it's not necessarily that certain people didn't like you, just that they liked other people more. It doesn't really matter anyway and you'll never know for sure.

But, like others have said, you're doing yourself a disservice by limiting yourself to only 3 of 7 chapters. Granted, I don't know the dynamics of your campus, I don't know you, and I don't know which chapters you think are the best fit for you. Most GCers are quick to assume that when a PNM says she only wants X of Y chapters, she is only considering ones that are "popular" and mentally eliminating "low tier" chapters. I can say that out of 14 chapters at my alma mater, I think only 4 other chapters than the one I joined would have been a good fit for me, but those chapters felt the same way about me too.

So, based on the information you've given us, your chances don't look so good, but it's up to you to decide which is worse: rejection or never knowing what could have been.