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Originally Posted by Zillini

• (This one may be a shocker.) DO understand that many chapters are receiving more and more Recs every year because both alums and PNMs realize their importance in a highly competitive Recruitment. Due to this along with the RFM, some chapters may no longer be able to guarantee a courtesy invite to the first invitational round for all PNMs with Recs. The Panhellenic set number of invites simply may not allow it.

• DO understand that many chapters have more and more legacies participating in Recruitment every year. I know of several chapters that have had almost as many if not more legacies than quota in recent years. Legacies can be released.

• Please be patient, understanding, and remember to treat her with the respect due another sister. Please DON'T call and rip into a Recruitment officer or the active who happens to answer the chapter phone.

• DO keep in mind that while your PNM may be beautiful, smart, talented, funny, has a great resume, etc, she may still be released. To help put things into perspective, in 2008 Bama had over 1,500 PNMs that signed up for Recruitment and quota ended up at 86 (combined freshmen and upperclassmen). That's less than 6% of the entire field that received a bid from any one chapter. Perhaps your PNM didn't click with the active(s) who recruited her? Perhaps she was overwhelmed by the process? Perhaps her true personality simply didn't shine through? Perhaps there were 100's of other PNMs who were just as beautiful, smart, talented, funny, had great resumes, etc. We are sorry that she and you are hurting, but this does not mean the actives did not like her or that we do not respect you.

Amen to these!

I feel like these could stand to be changed to apply parents/relatives and PNMs themselves. Good advice for them too.

And I second the "don't rip the active who answers the phone a new one."