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Originally posted by greeklawgirl
Well, I had a happy compromise built in for myself when I got married. When I was born, my parents couldn't decide on a middle name. My mother wanted to give me my great-grandmother's name. My father wanted to give me his name (the Greek tradition of the patronym). Neither one wanted to give in...so I got stuck with no middle name at all.
So when I got married, I took my husband's name and kept my maiden name as a middle. I use my full name on everything...driver's license, credit cards, bank account. It has worked very well for me. I still get to use my maiden name, which is very important to me, because I accomplished a lot of things as a single woman. But using my married name also gives me the opportunity to publicly affirm that my husband and I are one family unit.
I think that women should do what they feel comfortable with! Either option is totally legitimate.
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I did the exact same thing. I felt a little bit sorry for my dad that his name is going to die out with him, as he was the only son in his family and I am the only child in mine. But then I thought well, it isn't my fault my parents only had one child!!!!!
I guess I am a traditionalist but I am always a bit suspicious of women who won't take their husband's name. How would you want people to address things to you? To the Mr. Smith and Mrs. Jones family? Or are you even a Mrs.? Do you go by Ms.? I don't know. I feel like there is a lot more to me than my name and I don't need to hang onto that....I wanted to have his name and have our children have the same name. To each their own I guess but I really don't quite understand it I guess.