Am I the only one who does not truly know what Organization she is talking about? What are "unladylike" colors? I'm lost.
Eitherway, whether you are in an NPC, NPHC, etc. (because I have no clue what she is a member of)....You may eventually realize that your organization is so much bigger than yourself. It sounds stupid but, it really is true! I tell EVERYONE who even THINKS about going Greek....It may seem great to go for the "Biggest" "Brightest" or "Best" GLO out there but, reputations are different everywhere...go where you feel comfortable. If you are a member of a National Greek Letter Organization, there are more benefits than I could even list. No National GLO is bad. They all have their ups and downs.
Take today, for example. I did a community service project for the MDA/ Jerry's Kids. I only had a week or so to raise money (since I joined this event late in the game). I sent out a message to my sisters on our sisterhood listserv and even called a few. In about a week's time-I made nearly $500. I knew I could count on my sisters. That is just one example....I really hope you rethink this...Besides...if EVERYONE in a particular organization didn't care about bettering themselves or there appearance-the organization wouldn't thrive....Good Luck...I hope you find what you are looking for!