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Originally Posted by alum
What is appropriate for a middle-aged old fuddy-duddy type to wear at a barbecue-theme pre-wedding dinner for a old-money Deep South wedding?
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When you say "pre-wedding," do you mean earlier the day of the wedding, the night before, or a week or two in advance?
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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
Barbecue is a messy meal - I would think a Derby-type outfit would be a bit much.
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Originally Posted by alum
It's actually being catered at a hotel so I'm not sure if it's in or out. It's in Western NC...if that matters.
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Since she said Western NC, I'm assuming it's pork, not beef. Pork barbecue isn't nearly as messy as Texas-style beef would be. Sounds like a pig-pickin', maybe? (Or are they actually calling it a "barbecue"? People in NC
rarely refer to the event as a barbecue -- barbecue means slow-cooked pulled pork -- so if they're calling it one, that in itself could be a hint as to the type and style of the event.)
FWIW, in Eastern NC a pre-wedding (as in a few weeks before the wedding) pig pickin' would mean chinos and a button-down or polo shirt for the guys, and sundresses or other summer-style dresses for the females. I've been going to them all my life and I've never worn or seen a tie. If the pig pickin' is actually the weekend of the wedding, such as the rehearsal dinner, it might be a little dressier. In my experience, Western NC (meaning the mountains) is typically less dressy than Eastern NC.
But it may depend on exactly what you mean by "Western NC." I've heard some people refer to Charlotte as Western NC. Do you mind my asking where exactly, or what hotel? PM me if you want to.