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Concur. Quit or try. You're doing absolutely no one any good by whining. You should either dissociate and go on with your life or attempt to make a difference.

If this is an NPHC group, you will have the connections and mentorship you seek. You just might actually have to take the initiative to go find them.

Try and take a leadership role and see if you can begin to steer your chapter in a direction you'd like. Get your friend who agrees with you on your side and work to make your group better. This is a much better use of your time and energy.

If you look for the benefits, I'm sure you'll find them.

If you're not willing to put in the work for that, it's probably best if you leave.