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Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst
I am not the one to define elitism. However, I have learned that when one is born into a certain position, one has to learn to have a sense of duty towards god, family and country. I think that the burden of being "elite" in any sense is the realization that one just can't take pride in one's own circumstance.
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My undergraduate university had a ton of kids from priviledged backgrounds. It was always a source of happiness to me to see how kids from all different backgrounds blended in well together, and got along so well. Among all of these priviledged students, one girl in particular stood out. She came from an enormously wealthy family, even by that school's standards. Everyone knew who she was from the get-go. Her family (who had obviously done a great job raising her) had a chat with her before she set off for school. They had told her that people would be all too ready to find her snobby, and that she would have to make an effort to extend herself to others. She became legendary in my enormous dormitory for going around and knocking on literally every door to introduce herself to her fellow students. Of course, she did not become close friends with absolutely everyone, but she was widely admired for her friendliness, humility, and down-to-earth qualities. I don't remember her ever once making a big deal about her background, family expectations for her, etc. She joined the organizations where she felt comfortable, and did pretty much what she wanted to do during her campus tenure (I think she felt secure enough about herself to not worry about these things overly.) To this day I admire her and have warm thoughts of her.
If you are going to go through rush, go through with the attitude that you are going to meet some new people. Take them as you find them. If you go through rush with the attitude that you want to help your rusher to feel comfortable with you, to enjoy herself, and to have a pleasant conversation with you, then I think that you would be going through with the right perspective. You may or may not form a connection, but you can only decide that after you've gone through the process.