Oh no, I sure did not mean for my story to cause any controversy!
It
has been a long time now, 20 years, and I remember most things clearly, or at least I like to think I do. What I can explain, which hopefully will clarify any questions that anyone may have, is that for a time, our school had an interim director of Greek Life who was not Greek herself. She ran things according to her strictest "on paper" interpretation of school and Panhellenic policies with the sororities' individual policies following "secondarily" if you will, because that is how she believed things were best done. When the new Greek Life director (who had been a Sigma Kappa in Tennessee- perhaps at Knoxville, but I don't remember for sure) was hired, several things gradually changed and ran more smoothly, as the chapters were allowed to follow our (inter)national guidelines more closely than we previously had. I hope that makes sense.
Also I will say that, since 65Mustang and I roomed together, we had one mini-firdge, one television, one microwave (which we hid in a closet when not using it- because at the time they were against dorm policy), one hair dryer, and one car. We were allowed to have our own bottles of shampoo and curling irons.
We lived one year in the dorm I described in my story, then moved to another dorm on campus which had smaller rooms with non-movable, built-in furniture and community bathrooms on each single-sex floor (which was still cheaper than the first dorm due to the smaller rooms and community bathroom!), and we lived in that dorm for 2 years. That second dorm is where we met Cougar Grad.
And I did receive one private message, which was not ignored, but as I mostly came online here to tell my story, I had not answered the questions yet.
Thank you all again for reading, and for enjoying it!