I keep reading everyone mention blood relatives and keeping the picture to the bloodline - thus excluding the spouse b/c theyre technically not blood.
well what if they had adopted children, or children from a previous marriage that the "bloodline" spouse chose to adopt and raise as his/her own. these people are technically not blood either - would they be excluded from the family picture as well? there is no way someone would exclude my children and hurt them like that...
even if you do include the spouse in the picture and they possibly get divorced somewhere down the line, that person is still the mother or father of your grandchildren, niecies or nephews - so they will always be special in that way (even if they do turn out to be a crazy maniac
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i follow a simple rule my mom taught me - the more the merrier - and as soon as you start excluding people the sooner feelings get hurt.