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Originally posted by MooseGirl
We accept the past and acknowledge the part all these ex-es play in our lives. It may hurt us but it is a part of who we are.
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Very well said.
I however am not that mature. As for me...I tend to be a bit of an ass when it comes to these things...and being a southerner....I tend to be vengful. So i would find a time at the wedding reception where you could gather the "not includeds", snap a group photo inconspicusly. Wait about 6 months, then next time you are in the parent-in-laws house, put it up on the mantle, in a 5x7 frame. Wait till someone asks, and just say something like, "Well, since we werent included in the big portrait, I thought it would be nice if you had your whole family on display....not just the ones who werent controversial. The other spouses agree."
Ya know what? the in-laws will get offended. Ya know what? fluck 'em. They'll deal, and cope with it, because 1)they offended you by not taking your feelings into consideration (which they could have done by discussing it with you) and 2) youre family. Youre in the buisness of pissing each other off and having to get over it.