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Maybe she was raised with the belief that you can't find true happiness unless you have a man in your life. She also could be comparing your life to her life (mothers often do that) Are the two of you open and communacative in all the other areas except this subject? Sometimes we despertely try to find a subject we both can relate to, but end up trying to pass our belief system on to our children. Have you told her-gently-how happy you are and how you really feel about this subject. I agree 100%-you are very young to make a lifetime commitment-even to be serious about one person-especially when YOU don't feel the desire. (I'm NOT saying it might not work for some)
She may be caught up in all the wedding plans as well, and longs for the kind of wedding she wants YOU to have...How SHE would do things. If ths is a part of it,you are lucky as it will pass.
Have you had a LOVING heart to heart-or is it such a "sore spot" you always end up miffed at each other?
Have you told her this subject is just flat-out off limits?
Have you toldher you love her more than anything in the world,
but have your OWN plans for your OWN life? Just be gentle and HOPEFULLY, she will see you as a INDEPENDENT young woman...not an extension of her.
If you have had control issues all along-you may just have to tune her out. Good luck sweetie.
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