Sorry for being harsh right out the gate...but that was your first mistake, regretting you pledged your oath to a sorority and the principles that you swore you would uphold every day of your life. As a member in the org that I am we have one principle that sets us aside from others, and that's the principle of Finer Womanhood. Therefore, it is my Sorors and my duty and obligations to give and to receive correction as set for us. So when a member of your org tells you to go change clothes because you're showing to much, or dancing to sexual, or just being out there. Its not out of spite it hate, its out of love for you as their sister. I would rather hear it from someone who respects and loves me than a stranger who has no problem with judging me. When you joined the org you joined I'm sure you knew that was expected, but now that's not fitiing into your life you feel there is a problem. Sorority life is a business as well as the other incentives that comes with it, but one thing you will learn and ask yourself before you walk out your house...is what I'm wearing representing who I am as a woman and a woman of xyz sorority. If not then you may want to consider, because your appearance and actions, represents a whole org now. be conscious of what you are doing with/without your letters on for the person who is talking about you will label you and attach your org behind it regardless of good/bad.