[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by FunGirl123

Thank you for all the responses.

I still do not think some of you understand what I am trying to say.

What made me join the whole sorority life was because I wanted to get the most out of my university experience, especially since I live off campus.

It is not the dressing up part that I am pissed off at the moment.

"Two heads are better than one" <-- That's also one of the reasons why I joined. Joining an organizing where you have the opportunity to succeed and make a positive impact (both individually and as a group).

So therefore, I do believe we should help each other be the best they can be, but at the same time, we need to know when to step aside and let the person make the choice. I guess, at the end of the day, I do not want to feel as if im not an indepent person, and I couldn't do anything without this organization. I dont want to feel depended on my sorority. It is VERY important for me to figure things out on my own and not have a bunch of sorority girls telling me what to do. I want to make my own mistakes and handle the consequences myself.

I am completely aware of the 'real world' and realize that I will be part of a workforce where I have to portray an image. I do not mind having these types of expectations from my job, but I guess I am having trouble having these expectations from my sorority. Plus, I do not want to be some lawyer working in some big firm where i will be constantly watched. I am planning to be a dietitian where expectations of me from clients, but more so on my knowledge about nutrition, as opposed to what I did last night, what I am wearing ect.(note, image will be important, but if i want to be hired by a hospital, their main issue will be how well do I know nutrition and how well can I assess dietary meal plans for my patients).

I still feel like we need to be constantly selling ourselves. And I guess, right now, I feel like is this really worth my time? Do not get me wrong. I love my sorority girls. and I have had this talk with some of them, and they agree. We do not like being judged for every little thing we do. This is fine to us in the corporate world, but not in sorority world, where you expect the girls to be your sisters.

(random: another thing that just happened recently: one of our girls was told by international ppl to put off pictures of certain girls off our website because they did not fit the right image -aka are ugly. When I joined my sorority, I was so happy to join such an organization that did not fit the stereotypes-superficial and all about showing off what a great sorority they are. This is like high school all over again and I am sick of it.

I THINK we all understand exactly what you're trying to say. Unless there is more to the story that you're not telling us. You're vague with details, and dressing a certain way/acting like an adult seem to be the main points of your response. Therefore, if you're talking about clothing and being an adult, we know what you mean, and I'm sure everyone here will stick to their previously stated opinions.

As for the last part I bolded... I find this hard to believe.