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Originally Posted by Munchkin03
He's 53! Younger than both of my parents! So, not that old to be stuck in these weird ways.
A lot of it is chauvinism, plain and simple. He has this idea that a woman must go straight from her father's house to her husband's house, so the fact that I'm living over a thousand miles away from my parents, with no marriage plans in sight, means that my parents have to be paying my way. So, he thinks that my parents are extremely wealthy...they live in Florida so they have to be, right?
Also, to hear him talk to his wife is heartbreaking. In the past week, he's called her "worthless $#!^," and said that he "gave up on [her] a long time ago." For someone to sing the virtues of marriage, he seems to be unhappy in his.
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Sounds like a jerk for sure. The patterns for marriages that I've been close to-- my parents, my own, and my in-laws-- just straight up don't admit the possibility of saying that kind of crap to or about your spouse. I can't even imagine how sucky his poor wife's situation is.
I'm always kind of amazed that ordinary people can actually live in NYC, but my amazement wouldn't be affected by the gender of the person in question.
(I also think I forget that the average salary in any field is probably higher because of the market. But when I look at what's published as average for teachers, I can't figure out how you'd deal with the cost of living difference from Atlanta to NYC on the five thousand or so listed here:
http://www.payscale.com/research/US/...Salary/by_City)
So basically, while this guy is a jerk, being completely independent financially and doing well professionally at your age is an accomplishment that other people might not be pulling off as well as you are. Nice work.