[ASTalumna06]

My kind of harsh, but honest thoughts:

This chapter didn’t want you. It’s as simple as that. You went through recruitment 3 times, and they turned you down every time. For what reason, I’m not really sure. No one here can answer that for you. Maybe it was your grades, maybe you needed more extra-curriculars, maybe you said something inappropriate during recruitment... the only people who can say for sure are the girls in that chapter, and they’re not going to tell you.

E-mailing the President probably wasn’t the best idea. There is only so much she could have said to you. Imagine what it was like for her to receive an email from a girl that her chapter turned down. What did you expect her to say? And as you said, she told you to try formal again, probably as a nice way of saying, “Look at the other chapters”... but I can’t say that’s what she was thinking for sure. But still, she didn’t say to you, “Go through recruitment again and we’ll give you a bid.” To expect that from her and/or the chapter is unreasonable.

Sometimes things just don’t work out. But if you really want to be a part of Greek life, you have to seize the opportunity when it’s presented to you. What didn’t you like about the other chapters who were willing to possibly give you a bid? These chapters wanted to give you a chance, but you didn’t give them one. You should have at least went to the last round of recruitment to see if your opinion of them changed (which definitely happens for a lot of people).