[ASTalumna06]

I remember when I first joined my chapter... I didn't necessarily think that they were the "party chapter," but I felt as if there were a lot of social events to attend. After I was initiated and fully immersed in everything that was going on, though, I started to realize that there's a lot more to it.

My suggestion: Go to business meetings if you can. And pay attention. I remember sitting through meetings when I was a new member and not listening to much at all. It was very overwhelming and I didn't know how anything worked, so my focus was generally elsewhere. When I started learning the ropes, I realized how much other stuff the chapter actually does.

Also, are you close with the other new members? Try to hang out with them and see what they're interested in. You might find that a lot of them aren't into partying at all. These are the girls you'll be with for the next four years, so find out what they're like before making any rash decisions.

And if you're approaching initiation, and you really don't feel comfortable, you can always drop out then. But be absolutely sure that's what you want if you choose to do so.