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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

There is a possibility that seems to have been overlooked. It is possible that the poster is a Christian and was only invited back to one of the predominantly Jewish sororities. If this were the case, it wouldn't make sense for her to return if she felt she could never be comfortable there.

I have no idea if this is the case. But there are possible explanations that a PNM might not feel expressing in a public place with the PC police on the troll throughout the world.

Just a thought.

This thread = getting a little ridiculous.

I'm certainly not one to say that a PNM doesn't have the right to accept/decline whatever invites she gets.

People also need to consider when they come here for advice and such, that they open themselves up for criticism (whether warranted or not). That's how asking for advice and such on the internet works.

I mean, if they only want someone to tell them what they want to hear about a situation, then perhaps they should ask their friends or people around them--rather than strangers on a message board.

This might sound harsh, but if she wants to hear "oh it was totally cool of you to decline a pref invite" she should probably ask someone else. That's not likely to be the response she gets here.

This has never been a "tell PNMs what they want to hear" kind of place, and I really don't want it to become that. I think it does a disservice to them if you ask me. If being honest with someone makes me "mean" or the "PC police" then so be it.

And for the record, there are TONS of threads where PNMs ask questions and get completely civil, polite and informative answers. I'd say that 90% of responses to PNMs are very helpful and polite. Not every PNM is "demonized here" at all. It's when they are in denial, rude, or just not wanting to accept the advice that THEY asked for, when people then have to be rude back.

The poster's question was answered VERY politely in the first few posts.