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Originally Posted by Jimmy Choo
Just my two cents....depending on how big your chapter is they may have no clue who you are. Take the time to re-introduce yourself. Don't take everything as a slight b/c chances are it isn't.
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Exactly what I was thinking.
One semester, for personal reasons, I wasn't able to make it to two recruitment events, and one of our new members had only gone to those two events. I went to the first new member ceremony, but I had to leave immediately afterward.
About a week later, I was walking to class and this girl was waving, and I thought she was waving at me, but I wasn't sure. I waved back, but I probably had a look on my face that said "who the hell is this girl?" She looked familiar but I couldn't place her. An hour or so later, I realized she was a new member, and I felt terrible about it. And I come from a very small chapter.
It sounds like you're from a larger chapter. Maybe these girls don't know who you are. Or maybe they were distracted. I know that whenever I walked around campus, I was basically in a daze.. especially if I had a test or presentation to do. Some of my best friends would walk by me and have to yell my name for me to pay attention.
And agreeing with everyone else here... get to know the older sisters, and don't just expect them to come to you. Remember, these girls were friends long before you came along. Not to say that you should all be friends according to new member classes, but randomly inviting new people out doesn't always happen automatically.
You said that the sisters seemed more friendly during recruitment. This seems obvious to me (not that they're not friendly now, but they're not in that, "Oh my god, it's so great to meet you! What's your major? That's awesome!" kind of phase). People say that conversation is hard to come by during recruitment, but a lot of times, I found it more difficult to talk to girls once they became new members. You can't really fall back on those easy questions anymore. Find out what an older sister likes, and try starting a conversation with her from that.
And you like the other new members. Hang out with them! And remember that the next class that comes in will be partially chosen by you. Make friends with them.
And another suggestion: I know of a chapter that has a "welcoming committee" so to speak. It's their responsibility to make the new members feel welcome, to invite them places, and to get them involved and acclimated to the sorority. Maybe next semester you could suggest forming one of these committees within your chapter.