[KSUViolet06]

Here comes some honesty, hopeful it's something you can appreciate:

Friendships within a sorority are NOT automatic. They have to grow and be cultivated.

Just like with any other friends you've had, it takes time develop friendships.

I also find that alot of girls expect that once they are a new member, that the initiated members should make ALL the effort in making plans, talking to you, inviting you to do things.

That's not always the case.

Sometimes, new members feel the way you do because they just sit back and wait for others to approach them.

Generally, bonding with members takes some effort on YOUR part as well.

You have to actively try to make friends within the chapter. It's okay to make plans on your own and invite some actives to join you.

If you sit back WAITING for actives to approach you, you probably won't make any friends. You need to be proactive about getting to know people if you want to make friends.

Something else to consider: The actives may not want to hang out with you because you're the one who may be sitting in the back waiting for other girls to talk to her and looking pissed off! Who wants to be around someone who acts that way? So ask yourself if there is something you're doing that is making other girls not want to be around you.

Also, don't assume that girls in other sororities are being SO fawned over by the actives in their chapter. That's not always the case. If you were to drop out of your sorority for this reason, go through recruitment, and re-join a different group, you'd find yourself in the same situation if you just sat back waiting.

So my advice: Be proactive, seek out actives to hang with, and see if things change for you.