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The most I've ever done is give a girl we "didn't get" a hug, a pat on her back, and encouragement to do well in her new group. This is regardless of whether or not she expresses regret over where she has ended up or whether she feels she has "hurt our feelings".

Sadly, I can not say that I have seen other groups be as gracious. We had an awful situation where another chapter was all but promising a pnm a bid, but when we got her we didn't know that. She only stood out because A) She looked mad enough to kill and B) She was furiously crying.

It was awful because all the sisters noticed the fact that she looked so angry (about to HIT somebody angry) and she made many of us uncomfortable and upset. We couldn't really comfort her b/c we were trying to figure out why she had an attitude problem! Imagine standing there for 20 min and all she does is glare and cry!

(When I tried to ask her if she was okay, she refused to talk much and only wanted to talk to her Rho Gamma. I didn't tell her just then that her Rho Gamma is OUR sister, I wanted her to be surprised when she ran to us!)

Then we noticed members from the other chapter come over and hug her and tell her how "sorry" they were and that she can "opt out", etc. That just made more sisters furious! Needless to say, we managed to get the full story out of her as she managed to trooper her way through bid day despite it all. And thankfully, she is now a very happy sister. But look what that other group put her and us through!