[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I had a case of the 2nd semester let down.

I'd had really high (unreasonable) expectations of my sorority and the sisters, and then I was disappointed when they didn't measure up to these ideals I had. I didn't even give them a chance to show me what they had to offer.

I also didn't make enough of an effort to get to be friends with the other girls. I felt left out, lonely, and my self-esteem suffered because I thought these girls chose not to be friends with ME, not the other way around.

Once I made a commitment to the sorority, things turned around. I told myself that I'd made vows (during initiation) and I was going to keep them, so for now on dropping out is NOT an option. No more fantasizing about it. And once I'd really dedicated myself to the sorority, it became easier to get to know the girls - they didn't seem so distant, somehow. That meant I got more involved in events, too.

It's also important to know your sisters will disappoint you sometimes. They're not perfect. You can't expect them to hold true to the ideals every waking minute; you can just expect them to try to. Cut them some slack.