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^^^Ditto. Don't hit the panic button yet, you both might just be busy this week.
Theta, I don't think you need a confrontation, but if these are your "best friends" you could at least tell them what's up.
This is exactly how my best friend and I ended. She wouldn't return a single call, text, nothing. I continued to ask her what was wrong, did I do something, etc. After some months, I pushed for a convo. If we've been best friends all these years, I deserved SOMETHING. You don't just ignore your "best friend" like she's nothing more than vapor. I'm a big girl--if she'd said she didn't want to be friends anymore then I could've taken that. I'd be hurt, but whatever. Not returning my calls made me wonder if something was seriously wrong (she has a life-threatening illness) and I started to freak out worrying. When I realized she'd just let me worry that much about her when she could've just returned a dang phone call and been honest, that hurt more than anything she'd ever done. Your sitch is a little different, but still--your friends are probably increasing their calls because they're being friends. They wanna know what's up with you. You don't have to do a big, flamboyant break-up (Take Me or Leave Me a la "Rent" for example) but, as someone who's been on the other side of this, just be honest. At the very least, tell them you're in a different place in life and you don't have as much time as you used to. But give them something.
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